Human Categories, Friendship, Relationship
Al-Isra (The Journey by Night) 17:7
إِنْ أَحْسَنتُمْ أَحْسَنتُمْ لِأَنفُسِكُمْ وَإِنْ أَسَأْتُمْ فَلَهَا فَإِذَا جَاء وَعْدُ الآخِرَةِ لِيَسُوؤُواْ وُجُوهَكُمْ وَلِيَدْخُلُواْ الْمَسْجِدَ كَمَا دَخَلُوهُ أَوَّلَ مَرَّةٍ وَلِيُتَبِّرُواْ مَا عَلَوْاْ تَتْبِيرًا
[And We said:] "If you persevere in doing good, you will but be doing good to yourselves; and if you do evil, it will be [done] to yourselves." And so, when the prediction of the second [period of your iniquity] came true, [We raised new enemies against you, and allowed them] to disgrace you utterly, and to enter the Temple as [their forerunners] had entered it once before, and to destroy with utter destruction all that they had conquered.
Al-Furqan (The Criterion) 25:28
يَا وَيْلَتَى لَيْتَنِي لَمْ أَتَّخِذْ فُلَانًا خَلِيلًا
Oh, woe is me! Would that I had not taken so-and-so for a friend!
Al-Hadid (Iron) 57:23
لِكَيْلَا تَأْسَوْا عَلَى مَا فَاتَكُمْ وَلَا تَفْرَحُوا بِمَا آتَاكُمْ وَاللَّهُ لَا يُحِبُّ كُلَّ مُخْتَالٍ فَخُورٍ
[Know this,] so that you may not despair over whatever [good] has escaped you nor exult [unduly] over whatever [good] has come to you: for, God does not love any of those who, out of self-conceit, act in a boastful manner.
Complete Conduct of Life; Lack of desire toward the world; Zuhd or Asceticism (Arabic: زهد) means lack of desire toward the world and is considered among moral virtues. Zuhd is a spiritual state which brings about attention toward the hereafter, not relying on anyone other than God and turning to Him.
Sa'sa'a bin Sohan. Ṣa‘ṣa‘ah ibn Suhān ( Arabic: صعصعة بن صوحان) was close follower of Imam Ali AS. He used to a great businessman and was very pious and supportive of community.
This concept is stressbuster; a product, practice, system, etc, that is designed to alleviate stress.
Stress, either physiological, biological, or psychological is an organism's response to a stressor such as an environmental condition. Stress is the body's method of reacting to a condition such as a threat, challenge or physical and psychological barrier. Stimuli that alter an organism's environment are responded to by multiple systems in the body. In humans and most mammals, the autonomic nervous system and hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal axis are the two major systems that respond to stress.
Al-Furqan (The Criterion) 25:29
لَقَدْ أَضَلَّنِي عَنِ الذِّكْرِ بَعْدَ إِذْ جَاءنِي وَكَانَ الشَّيْطَانُ لِلْإِنسَانِ خَذُولًا
Indeed, he led me astray from the remembrance [of God] after it had come unto me!” For [thus it is:] Satan is ever a betrayer of man.
Ya-Sin (Ya-Sin) 36:30
يَا حَسْرَةً عَلَى الْعِبَادِ مَا يَأْتِيهِم مِّن رَّسُولٍ إِلاَّ كَانُوا بِهِ يَسْتَهْزِؤُون
OH, THE REGRETS that [most] human beings will have to bear! Never has an apostle come to them without their deriding him!
Ya-Sin (Ya-Sin) 36:47
وَإِذَا قِيلَ لَهُمْ أَنفِقُوا مِمَّا رَزَقَكُمْ اللَّهُ قَالَ الَّذِينَ كَفَرُوا لِلَّذِينَ آمَنُوا أَنُطْعِمُ مَن لَّوْ يَشَاء اللَّهُ أَطْعَمَهُ إِنْ أَنتُمْ إِلَّا فِي ضَلَالٍ مُّبِينٍ
36:47 Thus, when they are told, “Spend on others out of what God has provided for you as sustenance,” [26] those who are bent on denying the truth say unto those who believe, “Shall we feed anyone whom, if [your] God had so willed, He could have fed [Himself]? Clearly, you are but lost in error!”
Surat No 12 : سورة يوسف - Ayat No 106
وَ مَا یُؤۡمِنُ اَکۡثَرُہُمۡ بِاللّٰہِ اِلَّا وَ ہُمۡ مُّشۡرِکُوۡنَ ﴿۱۰۶﴾
ان میں سے اکثر لوگ باوجود اللہ پر ایمان رکھنے کے بھی مشرک ہی ہیں ۔
At-Tauba (The Repentance) 9:19
أَجَعَلْتُمْ سِقَايَةَ الْحَاجِّ وَعِمَارَةَ الْمَسْجِدِ الْحَرَامِ كَمَنْ آمَنَ بِاللّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ وَجَاهَدَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللّهِ لاَ يَسْتَوُونَ عِندَ اللّهِ وَاللّهُ لاَ يَهْدِي الْقَوْمَ الظَّالِمِينَ
Do you, perchance, regard the [mere] giving of water to pilgrims and the tending of the Inviolable House of Worship as being equal to [the works of] one who believes in God and the Last Day and strives hard in God's cause? These [things] are not equal in the sight of God. And God does not grace with His guidance people who [deliberately] do wrong.
Al-Baqara (The Cow) 2:216
كُتِبَ عَلَيْكُمُ الْقِتَالُ وَهُوَ كُرْهٌ لَّكُمْ وَعَسَى أَن تَكْرَهُواْ شَيْئًا وَهُوَ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ وَعَسَى أَن تُحِبُّواْ شَيْئًا وَهُوَ شَرٌّ لَّكُمْ وَاللّهُ يَعْلَمُ وَأَنتُمْ لاَ تَعْلَمُونَ
Fighting is ordained for you, even though it be hateful to you; but it may well be that you hate a thing the while it is good for you, and it may well be that you love a thing the while it is bad for you: and God knows, whereas you do not know.
An-Nisa (The Women) 4:19
يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ لاَ يَحِلُّ لَكُمْ أَن تَرِثُواْ النِّسَاء كَرْهًا وَلاَ تَعْضُلُوهُنَّ لِتَذْهَبُواْ بِبَعْضِ مَا آتَيْتُمُوهُنَّ إِلاَّ أَن يَأْتِينَ بِفَاحِشَةٍ مُّبَيِّنَةٍ وَعَاشِرُوهُنَّ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ فَإِن كَرِهْتُمُوهُنَّ فَعَسَى أَن تَكْرَهُواْ شَيْئًا وَيَجْعَلَ اللّهُ فِيهِ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا
O you who have attained to faith! It is not lawful for you to [try to] become heirs to your wives [by holding onto them] against their will; and neither shall you keep them under constraint with a view to taking away anything of what you may have given them, unless it be that they have become guilty, in an obvious manner, of immoral conduct. [18] And consort with your wives in a goodly manner; for if you dislike them, it may well be that you dislike something which God might yet make a source of abundant good.
اے ایمان والوتم کو یہ بات حلال نہیں کہ عورتوں کے (مال یا جان کے) جبراً مالک ہوجاوٴاور ان عورتوں کو اس غرض سے مقید مت کرو کہ جو کچھ تم لوگوں نے ان کو دیا ہے اس میں کا کوئی حصہ وصول کرلو مگر یہ کہ وہ عورتیں کوئی صریح ناشائستہ حرکت کریں۔اور ان عورتوں کے ساتھ خوبی کے ساتھ گزران کیا کرو اور اگر وہ تم کو ناپسند ہوں تو ممکن ہے کہ تم ایک شے کو ناپسند کرو اور الله تعالیٰ اس کے اندر کوئی بڑی منفعت رکھ دے۔
Al-Baqara (The Cow) 2:269
يُؤتِي الْحِكْمَةَ مَن يَشَاء وَمَن يُؤْتَ الْحِكْمَةَ فَقَدْ أُوتِيَ خَيْرًا كَثِيرًا وَمَا يَذَّكَّرُ إِلاَّ أُوْلُواْ الأَلْبَابِ
Granting wisdom unto whom He wills: and whoever is granted wisdom has indeed been granted wealth abundant. But none bears this in mind save those who are endowed with insight.
Al-Baqara (The Cow) 2:65
وَلَقَدْ عَلِمْتُمُ الَّذِينَ اعْتَدَواْ مِنكُمْ فِي السَّبْتِ فَقُلْنَا لَهُمْ كُونُواْ قِرَدَةً خَاسِئِينَ
For you are well aware of those from among you who profaned the Sabbath, whereupon We said unto them, "Be as apes despicable!"
And indeed you knew those amongst you who transgressed in the matter of the Sabbath (i.e. Saturday). We said to them: "Be you monkeys, despised (hated) and rejected."
Al-A'raf (The Heights) 7:166
فَلَمَّا عَتَوْاْ عَن مَّا نُهُواْ عَنْهُ قُلْنَا لَهُمْ كُونُواْ قِرَدَةً خَاسِئِينَ
And then, when they disdainfully persisted in doing what they had been forbidden to do, We said unto them: "Be as apes despicable!"
So when they exceeded the limits of what they were prohibited, We said to them: "Be you monkeys, despised and rejected."
An-Nisa (The Women) 4:105
إِنَّا أَنزَلْنَا إِلَيْكَ الْكِتَابَ بِالْحَقِّ لِتَحْكُمَ بَيْنَ النَّاسِ بِمَا أَرَاكَ اللّهُ وَلاَ تَكُن لِّلْخَآئِنِينَ خَصِيمًا
BEHOLD, We have bestowed upon thee from on high this divine writ, setting forth the truth, so that thou may judge between people in accordance with what God has taught thee. [133] Hence, do not contend with those who are false to their trust,
An-Nahl (The Bee) 16:4
خَلَقَ الإِنسَانَ مِن نُّطْفَةٍ فَإِذَا هُوَ خَصِيمٌ مُّبِينٌ
He creates man out of a [mere] drop of sperm: and lo! this same being shows himself endowed with the power to think and to argue!
Ya-Sin (Ya-Sin) 36:77
أَوَلَمْ يَرَ الْإِنسَانُ أَنَّا خَلَقْنَاهُ مِن نُّطْفَةٍ فَإِذَا هُوَ خَصِيمٌ مُّبِينٌ
IS MAN, then, not aware that it is We who create him out of a [mere] drop of sperm - whereupon, lo! he shows himself endowed with the power to think and to argue?
The ‘hard things’ in life can be whatever you think they are. Like getting up before sunrise to exercise even when you want to sleep in. Mowing your elderly neighbor’s lawn after mowing yours for three hours. All these things make a difference, help others, and essentially make you a better, healthier, happier, fulfilled individual.
Courage fosters human synergy and self assessment in a different way.
At-Tauba (The Repentance) 9:41
انْفِرُواْ خِفَافًا وَثِقَالاً وَجَاهِدُواْ بِأَمْوَالِكُمْ وَأَنفُسِكُمْ فِي سَبِيلِ اللّهِ ذَلِكُمْ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ إِن كُنتُمْ تَعْلَمُونَ
Go forth to war, whether it be easy or difficult [for you], and strive hard in God's cause with your possessions and your lives: this is for your own good -if you but knew it!
An-Nahl (The Bee) 16:95
وَلاَ تَشْتَرُواْ بِعَهْدِ اللّهِ ثَمَنًا قَلِيلاً إِنَّمَا عِندَ اللّهِ هُوَ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ إِن كُنتُمْ تَعْلَمُونَ
Hence, do not barter away your bond with God for a trifling gain! Verily, that which is with God is by far the best for you, if you but knew it:
As-Saff (The Row) 61:11
تُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ وَرَسُولِهِ وَتُجَاهِدُونَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ بِأَمْوَالِكُمْ وَأَنفُسِكُمْ ذَلِكُمْ خَيْرٌ لَّكُمْ إِن كُنتُمْ تَعْلَمُونَ
You are to believe in God and His Apostle, and to strive hard in God's cause with your possessions and your lives: this is for your own good - if you but knew it!
No Disappointment - 112 Verses
Mercy of Allah SWT
The Best Helper of Sins is Overeating
Three rules to my children:
1. Be reliable, keep your words, your word is your bond.
2. Do your best - but you don’t need to be obsessive about it; maintain a balance.
3. Be honest.
[Obsessive (thinking about something or someone, or doing something, too much or all the time)]
Quit People Pleasing:
On the one hand, the people pleasing behavior is stemming from the person’s own needs to please others. This part is really important, because oftentimes it may seem like it’s the other person who is creating the negative dynamic (the person who has too high of expectations, the person who demands too much, the person who asks for more than they give). And to be fair, that person often is doing all of those things. But the pattern of needing to please is coming from within the people pleaser themself.
The second important component of people pleasing is that this behavior often occurs at the expense of the person’s own needs. That is to say they are prioritizing others’ needs over their own; they are choosing to take care of others instead of themselves.
People pleasing is different from kindness. Kindness, is “the quality or state of being kind” and “the quality or state of being gentle and considerate.” So, kindness involves thoughtfulness of others but does not originate from an emotional need and does not occur at the person’s own detriment.
One way to break the cycle of people-pleasing is to say no without making excuses or apologies for your behavior. Own your feelings instead of blaming them on someone else.
Life is like a camera. Focus on what’s important, capture the good times, develop from the negatives and if things don’t work out, just take another shot.
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