Writing a Letter to Yourself

Writing a Letter to Yourself . . . Could Change Your Life!

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AX8EK_0fTcI

https://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/The_Measuring_Sticks_of_Success.html

What is Locus of Control by Qasim Ali Shah in Hindi/Urdu - Don't Let Others Control You

Inner locus of control; vision, dreams, will, goals

Outer locus of control; 1) People's opinion, people pleaser (a never ending misery). a) You cannot satisfy all. b) Take responsibility of your life. c) Listen to your inner. d) Response is in our control. How to deal with criticism. Practice. e) Flow like water, make your path. f) Mind your business. g) Forget about past. Learn from past. Don't get overloaded. Use your past for capacity building. Challenges have opportunities in them. Learn to forget. Patience protects you from backbiting. Patience means trusting Supreme Power (Allah SWT). Patience is different than tolerance. [sufferance; mercifulness · mercy · clemency · lenity · forgiveness · tolerance · forbearance · moderateness · lack of severity · moderation · humanity · charity · indulgence · gentleness]. 

Remembering sin is bigger sin. 

Relationship is for strength, don't let it liability. Don't become dependent. Not let others too. 

Learn to be happy within yourself (auto). Enjoy your own company. Interact makes you to judge others. 

Earn value, not only money. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w_S7WqSs76w

Self Respect - By Sandeep Maheshwari

Self and Respect: Self means we all are equal. We all have boudaries. We have to respect our's and other's boundaries. Once it is crossed then it has no limits. 

Respect comes in relationship / partnership. If it is fair, its fine. Being housewife is a big responsibility. Earning money is also important. Both husband and wife may respect each other. 

Punishment has a procedure. If you're in that position, how you wish to get treated. Everyone makes mistakes. When we make mistake, we expect others to understand us. But we don't understand, we make others to realize again and again. 

In the name of love, we over act in over-punishing. We label people. We ruin self respect of others. 

Matrimonial agent talk about their charges. Boys feel proud to mention what they got from their in-laws. This is all Self Respect sale. Now that girl will mention. Why you sold your Self Respect. Who bought in $1M; you don't have worth of $10.

Self Respect is equality, fairness in each and every part of life - business, job, relationship. Not taking advantage at any stage. 

When there is some situation, you can talk. I admit, I made mistake. Remember; maybe you had made some mistake in life. Please don't mention my mistake too much. 

Be clear; you respect others for your own benefit, not for others. There is more chance to get respect in return. If contrary; you can fight for your right. Fight is part of light. Don't burn your inner. 

Educate yourself and your surroundings about equality, fairness, basic rights. I deserve to be dealt fairly. Otherwise it will go to an extreme. One side superior, other one inferior. One side accepts inferiority. This is problem. 

Don't fight but explain to the other party that this is what I feel, I am. Mind power dynamics. 

Relationship must be based on respect, equality, fairness, appreciation; not on emotion. You have to protect your Self Respect.

Avoid validation, practice appreciation. If I seek validation, it means I am giving control to someone else. Just be conscious that I shouldn't distract others while doing my activities. No one has any interest what I'm doing right now, what I did at night. That is my routine, my business. When I am not intervening others I'm fine.

Discuss your ambitions; don't tell others what you are going to do. Take their point of view, not advice. Never ask, should I do it, or not. 

Emotional dependency is natural. Relationship is a painful journey. Once you will stop someone from what he wants to do, issue alert will arise. We have to learn both; love and fight. 

[18:00 - 19:00 Media is making us fool. They show us hero and villain; two different characters. In real life; we deal all in one. 

Once you have assessed yourself. Your know your strength. You know how to deal, fight, negotiate.

He needs money and you are just talking to him; is not relationship.

If I join a company, doing job, with no pay, only great talks. Sometimes money doesn't matter.] 

Fair play is the right approach. Win win for both. If one party is not satisfied then its not relationship. 

What we talk is different than what is in actual. We got angry somewhere and pour somewhere else. So, we have to understand. 

No one knows clearly, what we want. So, no point of relationship. 

Its a big discovery; what I want in life and then determination to make it happen. 

I need peace of mind. People are pushing me other way around.

So, I have to create situation for what I want. 

Now, its easy to understand what others need. Its foundation of relationship. 

Relationship is the basis of happiness. Relationship is so important. 

Self understanding is first step. Once you know your positives, negatives, strengths, weaknesses, how much good I'm, how much bad I'm. Now it becomes easy to understand others. 

Understanding, love, care, respect, self esteem, contentment, happiness, peace of mind; all follow.

Spirituality is not detachment. Its ultimate / total attachment. 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=54acVVq5clw

Build Your Walls! Guard Your Gates! You Can’t Hide What’s Inside

East Germany and West Germany division and behavior of people on both sides.

East Berliners sent garbage to West Berliners. In return, West Berliners did opposite.

Each gives what he has to give.

In the same difficult circumstance, some will focus on helping others and some will focus only on themselves.  Both are responding to what is hidden deep in their character.  The trial simply brings what is hidden to the surface, to where it can be seen in our words and our actions.

No good tree bears bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit. Each tree is recognized by its own fruit. People do not pick figs from thornbushes, or grapes from briers. The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks.

Good fruit, fruit that will last – the fruit of love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

It was this fruit that enabled the West Berliners to send love instead of hate back across that border.  It was this fruit that kept them from retaliating or escalating the conflict.  It was this fruit that made them understand the hurt and the fear behind what the East Berliners did.

If you get an opportunity to swap fruit, remember the good fruit of the West Berliners, and do you best to bless even when you are cursed.

https://wallbuilder.wordpress.com/2010/01/06/you-cant-hide-whats-inside/