Personality is not stable, it is dynamic, flexible, and circumstantial

When performance is measured, performance improves. When performance is measured and reported, the rate of improvement accelerates.

Becoming psychologically flexible is key to personal transformation, not over-attaching to your current identity or perspectives. Becoming insatiably committed to a future purpose and embracing emotions rather than avoiding them is how radical change occurs.

Purpose shapes personality. Without a deep sense of purpose, your personality will be based on avoiding pain and pursuing pleasure, which is an animalistic and low-level mode of operating. This is the common view and approach to personality for most. However, when you’re driven by purpose, you’ll be highly flexible and you’ll make decisions irrespective of pain and pleasure to create and become what you want.

A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions. Human beings are ‘works in progress’ that mistakenly think they’re finished.

What currently prevents your dreams from becoming reality is buried trauma keeping you trapped in your past, shutting down your confidence and imagination. Sure, trauma occurs as major, life-altering events. But more often, trauma is planted in minor incidents and conversations that limit your view of who you are and what you can do, creating a fixed mindset.

Personality is not stable it changes regardless of whether you’re purposeful about that change or not.

You are not a single and narrow type of person. In different situations and around different people, you are different. Your personality is dynamic, flexible, and contextual (circumstantial). Moreover, your personality changes throughout your life, far more than you can presently imagine.

Few people intentionally define and shape their identity, based on who they plan to be, and then become that person.

People use the past as the excuse to remain stuck in habits and attitudes that keep them from growing.

You are not a single and narrow type of person. In different situations and around different people, you are different.

Personality can often be explained by the social roles they espoused (adopted) and relinquished (surrendered) throughout their life stages. Thus, social role is an oft-studied and tangible predictor of personality.

Choosing one's own way is a primary purpose of our lives. Yet there is a fear in making choices, because choices have consequences. As a result, people avoid making decisions, fail to choose their own way, and limit their capacity for growth, learning, and change.

Choosing one's own way is what makes one human and the more you own the power of your own decision-making, the more your life and outcomes will be within your control.

We make countless choices in life, some large and some seemingly small. Looking back, we can see what a great difference some of our choices made in our lives. We make better choices and decisions if we look at the alternatives and ponder where they will lead . . . . Our present and our future will be happier if we are always conscious of the future . . . . Where will this lead! is also important in choosing how we label or think of ourselves . . . . Don’t choose to label yourselves or think of yourselves in terms that put a limit on a goal for which you might strive.

Without a meaningful goal, attempting changes lacks meaning, requires unsustainable willpower, and ultimately leads to failure.

One needs to decide what he or she wants and begin moving forward. With progress, even minuscule progress, their clarity and confidence will increase, opening the door for greater flexibility and change.

Your purpose isn't something you discover, but something you ultimately choose yourself. Stop looking for it and make the choice, then allow that choice to transform you.

It is often by taking opportunities or responsibilities above (or seemingly unnatural to) your skill level and experience that forces the greatest growth. If you're waiting to find something you feel immediate or intuitive passion for, then you're going to miss most of your greatest opportunities for growth and success.

Highly-quality relationships are transformational, not transactional. Often, the transformation is unpredictable and unexpected, as collaboration is a creative act.

'If there are meaningful choices, there is uncertainty. If there is no choice, there is no uncertainty.' If you're unwilling to face and interact with uncertainty, then you've greatly limited who you are and what you've become. You've limited your ability to make choices, because all choices involve uncertainty and risk.

If you were to lose a person you love, you wouldn't just lose that person but also the person you were when with them. All loss includes a loss of yourself. And conversely, meeting new people or entering new relationships leads to the creation of a new self.

A mistake repeated more than once is a decision.

We are kept from our goal not by obstacles but by a clear path to a lesser goal.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

You earn your confidence through intentional action toward meaningful goals. You can only borrow so much confidence from the distant past.

In young age, we do some stupid things. We didn’t even feel like we were in the same universe.

Like passion, motivation isn’t something to be discovered, but to be created

Personality like passion, inspiration, motivation, and confidence; is a by-product of your decisions in life. It’s a limiting and ineffective idea to view your personality as the driving force for the decisions you make in your life.

The most fundamental aspect of your humanity is your ability to make choices and stand by those choices. Choosing your own way has at least two key meanings: making decisions about what you want to happen and choosing how you respond to what does happen.

Prefer being rejected at your new standard than being accepted at your old one.

Labels can serve goals, but goals should never serve labels. When a goal serves a label, you've made the label your ultimate reality, and you've created a life to prove or support that label. You see this when someone says, I'm pursuing this because I'm an extrovert. This form of goal-setting occurs when you base your goals on your current persona rather than setting goals that expand upon and change who you are.

When someone proactively labels themselves an introvert or even an extrovert, they've officially made themselves dumber (temporarily unable or unwilling to speak); unless for some reason one of those labels will enable them to achieve a particular goal.

A clear indicator that someone has unresolved trauma is that his life and personality are repetitive for an extended period. But as he faces, opens up about, becomes more aware of, and ultimately reframes his trauma, he allows himself to take a positive and mature view of his past. His present and future will then stop reflecting his past.