Stuck in a Rut

“One of the first signs of the beginning of understanding is the wish to die. This life appears unbearable, another unattainable. One is no longer ashamed of wanting to die; one asks to be moved from the old cell, which one hates, to a new one, which one only in time will come to hate. In this, there is also a residue of belief that during the move the master will chance to come along the corridor, look at the prisoner and say: "This man is not to be locked up again, He is to come with me.”

“... and you drink a little too much and try a little too hard. And you go home to a cold bed and think, 'That was fine'. And your life is a long line of fine.”

“But there was a difference between being stuck and choosing to stay. Between being found and finding yourself.”

“Nothing that is good can become stuck – and if it is stuck, it can’t be any good!”

“… it's important to have something going on somewhere, at work or at home, otherwise you're just clinging on.”

“What does ‘stuck’ mean?” “It means I should make some big decision, I should do some enormous thing. And I can’t do anything. I can’t stand my life, and I can’t change it.” “Maybe it’s not an enormous thing,” he says. “Maybe you have to do one small thing and then another small thing.”

“Passion can seem intimidatingly out of reach at times - a distant tower of flame, accessible only to geniuses and to those who are specially touched by God. But curiosity is a milder, quieter, more welcoming, and more democratic entity. The stakes of curiosity are also far lower than the stakes of passion. [...] Curiosity only ever asks one simple question: "Is there anything you're interested in?" Anything? Even a tiny bit? No matter how mundane or small? The answer need not set your life on fire, or make you quit your job [...]; it just has to capture your attention for a moment. But in that moment, if you can pause and identify even one tiny speck of interest in something, then curiosity will ask you to turn your head a quarter of an inch and look at the thing a wee bit closer. Do it. It's a clue. It might seem like nothing, but it's a clue. Follow that clue. Trust it. See where curiosity will lead you next.”

“I believe having a vision in mind, a goal let's say, is a good thing. Unfortunately, so many of us are blinded by the greatness of our vision that paralysis and inaction sets in. What I try to do is focus on the individual steps, the moments if you will, and let them lead one to the next. The vision that eventually appears may not be exactly what you had in mind, but it will be the right one for you, because you did the work and you took the necessary action.”

“They are called stuckerpillers because they get stuck together. They depend so much on each other even when they become unhappy living together. They can’t leave each other because they’ve become one. They lose their own identity and then they get confused. They become helpless. When one stuckerpiller wants to go in one direction and the other stuckerpiller wants to go in the opposite direction, they end up pulling against each other, never really getting anywhere.”

“If you have found yourself in a ditch, guess what? You can find your way out. Scratch, crawl, strive, climb and press as if there’s no tomorrow. Manifest the greatness inside of you!”

“Life is for living not for been stuck in a rut of complacency where normality consists of the mundane.”

“When we are stuck in a rut we are being invited to grow and expand.”

“Staying locked into an image of how things are supposed to be can blind us to the grace of what is.”

“Lack of ownership over your anger can incorrectly absolve (release) you of all responsibility and so keep you stuck in the anger.”

Constantly focusing on the limitations, instead of all the possibilities, is how people become stuck in their lives. It only serves to recreate the same old reality from day to day and soon the days turn into years, and lifetimes.”

“If you feel stuck, move. You're not a tree.”

“[There are some] beliefs you currently believe, that are in your way. (...) You believe so much in them. And we understand why you believe in them.

Because: when you believe something, you offer a vibration about it, and you KEEP RECREATING it. So, something that happened a long time ago, you keep renewing your membership to. You keep bringing it forwards and so, then the memory, which could be very slight or non-existent at this point, is really active and alive, because you talked about it today and you talked about it yesterday and you talked about it the day before, even if it had happened 20 years ago and so, when people encounter you, you are a fresh new person and if you are like most humans, you are regurgitating (repeating) a lot of old stuff. So, things don´t change very much, if that´s what is going on with you.

Oh, different faces and different places, but same old, same old!

Because you continue to offer this same old belief-patterns.”

“You're angry with me. I don't understand why you're angry with me. Just because you don't like my dream. I mean, this is ridiculous."

He spoke gently, which unnerved me more. ‘I'm angry because not only are you not happy where you are, but you can't even think of where you'd rather be. Which I think is...’ He searched for the word. "Sad. No wonder you're stuck in a rut."

I thought about it some more. Thought about my dreams, my wishes, my ambitious. Where I wanted to be, that would make me feel better than being here. I couldn't come up with anything.”

“I tried to think about my dreams, where I wanted to be, what I really wanted, but I think to know what you want, you have to know what you don't want, and all I could figure out was that I really wished life hadn't contacted me, so I could have continued on the path I was going on. Life had complicated things. Life had tried to make things move on when I was perfectly content. He called it a rut, but he moved me from that place already, by merely by pointing out that I was there, and I would never be able to go back.”

“There is pain in staying the same and there is pain in changing. Pick the one that moves you forward.