Power of Authenticity

Power of Authenticity

Instead of trying to be liked by others

Start being yourself

We say, we don't like fake but most of the time we are fake actually

We all have some strengths / weaknesses

From very start we learn which emotions people around us like, we start displaying those ones and suppress other emotions

We become habitual of using different masks

First meeting, home, work place

We portray our best side; we cover the rest. It does a lot of damage. Here we compromise our self-worth. Selfishness and self-love get mixed up.

Selfishness is exploitation but self-love is empowering self and others. Self-loving people don't hide their deficiencies. They are not very much influenced by other people.

Authentic expression is soul expression. They have some magnetic attraction in their personality.

Trying to portray perfect is opposite to authenticity. Accepting yourself as is the best way. Al-Hadid (Iron) 57:23 لِكَيْلَا تَأْسَوْا عَلَى مَا فَاتَكُمْ وَلَا تَفْرَحُوا بِمَا آتَاكُمْ وَاللَّهُ لَا يُحِبُّ كُلَّ مُخْتَالٍ فَخُورٍ

[Know this,] so that you may not despair over whatever [good] has escaped you nor exult [unduly] over whatever [good] has come to you: for, God does not love any of those who, out of self-conceit, act in a boastful manner.

Hiding some traits of your personality to get approval of others is dangerous. Showing fake confidence. I'm alone / sad; means you have rejected your personality.

Your partner doesn't like you. It take away intimacy: into me You see.

No one can see you behind so many masks you are using.

Start removing masks.

Our best companion is our own self.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xxvKlaZMF7w

How to be Happy in the present moment

First 5-7 years most of features of personality get developed. Rest of time the child will observe through those developed filters. 

Strong personality establishes balance, calm and peace in all circumstances. Time is the best healer (a myth, a lie). Two parties of the conflict have different version of the story and both are true.

It is because of the filters / programing of minds. There are three sides to every story: your side, my side, and the truth. And no one is lying. Memories shared serve each differently. We attach a past story with the event.

There is not single version of truth; out of many versions one is most painful. Why I am sticking with that one? Once they accept this face then they get relief.

Let's take a divorce case: possibly both sides got hurt. Both sides lose something but at the same time both sides gain something too. When one focus on the gain; it counts as credit instead of pain and loss. More alignment with truth is real awareness (عرفان).

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L1l7J3MSCnQ