Mel Robbins
The reason why change is not easy is because your brain loves patterns and so if you get caught in a pattern where you are hitting the snooze button five times a morning and waking up late and stressed and overwhelmed. As much as you may hate that feeling, you are locked in a pattern and the problem that everybody faces is instead of hating the pattern. You hate yourself and it is critical that you understand in any area of your life where you are stuck. All that's happening is you have patterns of behavior and patterns of thinking that are keeping you stuck and what you must do, rule number one, is you must stop labeling yourself. You must stop saying, I'm a bad person, I'm a loser, I'm a failure, I'm not good enough. You must stop labeling yourself and you must start labeling the behavior you don't like. Waking up late is making me feel bad. Drinking an entire bottle of wine and waking up hungover makes me feel like a failure. Snapping at my kids is a behavior that makes me feel like I'm not good enough or that I'm failing as a mom. When you can separate yourself from the behavior you want to change. You now are free to change the behavior without indicting, sentencing, and locking yourself in a jail of self criticism. Under the weight of that self criticism. I am a bad person. I screw everything up. I'm a failure. That weight of self criticism is the reason why you don't feel inspired to change. This opinion became a belief and as you repeat it and keep saying it and saying it, saying it. See, I didn't pay my bills. I'm a bad person. See, I didn't do this. I'm a bad person. See, I didn't do that. I'm screwing up my life. See, see, see and you keep labeling yourself, it becomes your identity. And then all sorts of stuff kicks in in your brain in terms of the filter of your brain. And so step number one, in changing your life. Stop labeling yourself. And start identifying and labeling the patterns of behavior and patterns of thinking that make you feel bad and then go to work and change them.
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Any area of your life where you are stuck, you have patterns of behavior and patterns of thinking that are keeping you stuck. Rule number one is you must stop labeling yourself. You must stop saying, I'm a bad person. I'm a loser. I'm a failure and you must start labeling the behavior you don't like. Waking up late is making me feel bad. Dream an entire bottle of wine and waking up hungover makes me feel like a failure. Snapping at my kids is a behavior that makes me feel like I'm not good enough or that I'm failing as a mom. Stop labeling yourself and start identifying and labeling the patterns of behavior that make you feel bad and then go to work change them.
I'm Mel Robbins and that was my dream house and I wanted to show it to you because it's being built here right now in Southern Vermont and every time I walk through the door, I am blown away by how far my husband and I have come in just over a decade and it's evidence that you can change your life too. You can make a decision that today is the day you're going to change life. You're going to do the work. You're going to stop running from your problems. You're going to stop making excuses and you are going to face this stuff head on. Going to get clear about what you want and then you are going to wake up every day and decision by decision, day by day, step by step, week by week, year by year. You are going to do the work to change your life. It's not an easy formula but that's the only formula that works and if you put in the work and you're patient, I promise you, you will be rewarded and your dreams will come true.
I live in a four-season climate. I love the change of seasons. When you think about what winter is for, it's a period where everything falls off the trees and all that stuff that dies and falls to the ground becomes what nourishes and feeds the things that are going to grow in the spring and without the winter and without the freeze and without the dying off, you wouldn't have the new growth.
Hey, I'm Mel Robbins and I'm going to teach you the four simple steps that you need to follow in order to manifest the right way according to research and science.
Step # 1, give yourself permission to dream with the lid off. Set your spirit free. Write down five things every morning that you want.
Step # 2, visualize the steps that lead you to the thing that you want, not the end goal. Manifesting isn't about the end, it's about the bridge.
The third step is you're going to feel in your body what it feels like to do the work. It magnifies the imagery in your mind. You also want to feel a sense of pride that you're doing the work
and then finally, step four, you need to do the work, okay? Because it's only through your actions that you will accomplish what you want. That's how you use manifesting to get what you want.
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