Study of People Behavior

When you ask people about belonging (a feeling of being taken in and accepted as part of a group), they'll tell you their most excruciating (painful) experiences of being excluded.

When you ask people about connection, the stories they tell are mostly about disconnection.

What stopped the majority of people from affection and connection is shame.

Shame: The fear of failure often stems from a fear of experiencing shame or embarrassment.

Failing can trigger feelings worthlessness, so avoiding trying in the first place can sometimes serve as a way to protect the self from disappointment, regret, and sadness.

Perfectionists often equate failure to achieve their goals with a lack of personal worth or value. Fear of making mistakes. Perfectionists often equate mistakes with failure. In orienting their lives around avoiding mistakes, perfectionists miss opportunities to learn and grow.

Some perfectionists can be paralyzed by the fear of failure without even being able to start the task.

Being a perfectionist can be hellish. You need some tips for escaping the paralysis that often comes with perfectionism.

When we get into a rut and can’t start on a project or spend hours thinking about certain details, we are not advancing.

The clock is ticking and the deadline is approaching. So make a decision then stick to it.

Making a mistake does not mean I’m stupid or a failure. It only means that I am like everyone else - human. Everyone makes mistakes!

Having a problem with perfectionism is a lot like having a “phobia” of making mistakes or being imperfect – you are terrified of making mistakes. Facing fears in a gradual and consistent manner is the most effective way to overcome phobias, and is called “exposure”.

Fear of failure and perfectionism are like that prideful sea of ice, freezing you in place with thoughts of what others will think of you or worse, what you will think of yourself if you do not succeed at something.

It seems now more than ever, an overwhelming amount of people are striving to be perfect (or appear perfect).

Perfectionism is irrational. Procrastination often stems from the fear of disapproval. There is a strong link between procrastination and perfectionism. The drive to be perfect often creates anxiety, and to avoid this feeling people can put off doing things, which in turn makes them feel more anxious; it’s a vicious circle. This is what leads to procrastination. People put off doing the projects and tasks they want to excel at because they are afraid they will fail or they are afraid of what others will think if it’s not perfect. But by putting these things off they often have trouble getting things done on time or even completing things at all.