Set Your Emotions Free

Are We People Pleasers?

Do you stay quiet about things that upset you because you want to avoid conflict?

It’s easier to say nothing and absorb your own negative feelings than to say something?

You aren’t confrontational. You need to have boundaries! 

I used to let people decide for me, push me around and walk all over me.

It’s exhausting putting everyone’s happiness ahead of your own.

A few reasons why we do this.

1. We are uncomfortable handling vulnerable emotions. Not just our own but other peoples emotions as well. We don’t want to deal with their vulnerable emotions or our own.

2. We’ve been conditioned (likely from childhood) to be people pleasers. It validates us and makes us feel wanted, loved and accepted.

If you’ve been following me for awhile you’ve heard me talk about my 90 second method - an emotion lasts 90 seconds. If you can feel it, accept and release it, you don’t have to stay stuck in your vulnerable emotions. Why this works is because when you can learn that you can handle your vulnerable emotions you gain confidence that you can get through anything and you start dealing with the things you put off because you don’t want to feel those feelings.

If you’re an over thinker this also helps you stop over thinking because you process the emotion. Our emotions are triggered by our thoughts. So if we allow the emotion to be expressed be with it and release it, we prevent our brains from creating more thoughts that allow us to ruminate (dwell on) in our “uncomfortable” emotions.

When you avoid external conflict with others you absorb it all. You can become bitter, resentful, angry … you become unhappy. There is another way. You can gracefully make it through conflict and feel better about your situation, about your life and about yourself.

Break Your Overthinking Habit [Good Feeling Thoughts Help to Get Rid of Rut Thoughts] 

There is a difference between being stuck and choosing to stay. Between being found and finding yourself.

This trick will help you stop over thinking if you commit to it and implement it.

New thoughts attach to existing thoughts every 17 seconds. 

So if you’re stuck in overthinking your brain will create new thoughts in alignment with what you’re already thinking.

Not helpful for the over thinker!

Doing a pattern interrupt stops the chain of thoughts from attaching.

Just yell STOP or clap your hands in front of your face or snap your fingers.

You may have to do this a few times.

Then consciously choose another thought or memory that makes you feel good.

This really does work but you have to commit to it because your brain will try to gravitate back to its pattern of thinking.

Untapped Potential is a Treasure

You have so much untapped potential!

Are you staying stuck in a job you hate? Do you complain about how people treat you? Your love life? Your weight?

Are you trying to just get through the day, get through the holidays, the week, the winter, the toddler years….

You say things like “I just want to be happy”.

Curiosity takes you places comfort keeps you where you are. Choose wisely.

Let’s discuss the biological reasons why change is so hard for you. Doing things differently than you usually do requires your brain to make new connections or create a new pathways in your brain. But the brain doesn’t like change your brain like familiarity. So, when you start to do things different (and it doesn’t matter what you’re doing different) your brain says “WOAH!, WOAH! This is NOT how we do this” and then you get an uncomfortable feeling. Your brain likes when it knows what to expect and how to react even when you do like the results. When you know what to expect you feel safe and in control. When you do things different you step into the unknown which causes you to feel fear and unsafe.

This is where you have an important Choice! You can step into curiosity and change or step back into comfort and remain the same.

If you want things you don’t have right now you have to do things you’re not doing right now. You have to think ways you’re not thinking right now.

What you have now is a product of who you are right now.

The most important change is the way you’re thinking and what you’re thinking because your thoughts really do create your reality. I have learned the hard way that this really is where most peoples work lies.

Changing Habit

Do you keep making this mistake?

You try to lose weight, wake up earlier, date better men, start a new habit, earn more money, quit smoking, start a new routine and you stick with it for awhile and then the gas runs out and your goal goes with it.

Why do we self sabotage the things we want?!?!

The reason…

Our brains thrive on comfort and routine and when you try to make changes to the pattern and routine your brain is use to YOU WILL MEET RESISTANCE.

When you do meet this resistance that’s when you slip back into your old habitual ways.

Your comfort zone includes re creating childhood trauma or experiences as an adult. Your emotional comfort zone likely doesn’t get you the results you want but it’s so freaking familiar that it’s hard to stray from. Your brain knows how to react and what to expect and the brain likes familiarity.

So how do you make REAL change?

- consistency.

-Creating achievable goals to gain self trust.

-Creating better thoughts patterns.

-Pattern interrupting old thought patterns.

-Reprogramming your subconscious

In my 1:1 program you will see results as fast as the first session.

I teach you:

How to heal the past without reliving it.

How to stop old thinking.

How to successfully create new habits.

How to reprogram your subconscious.

How to create confidence in yourself.

And so much more.

2022 is coming to a close. How much longer do you want to keep reliving the same results?

Emotional Experiences as a Child

There’s a good chance you’re making this mistake?

Do you feel like you often take two steps forward and one step back or maybe even one step forward and two steps back?

As an adult any of the problems you continue to experience are a re-creation of the emotional experiences you had as a child.

If you felt abandoned, if your house struggled financially, if your parents or guardian’s relationship was toxic, if your household was chaotic or traumatic, if you felt unheard, not seen or unloved - you will re create these problems until they are healed.

The reason?

Our brain likes patterns and familiarity but this puts a bias on your present day experiences because you will be more drawn to things that feel familiar. Which is why you may switch jobs but find the same or similar issues, or leave relationships but continue to have the same relationships issues. That “chemistry” feeling that you have – that is familiarity.

As an adult you recreate the same emotional experiences because it’s familiar and your brain knows what to do and how to hand it.

It’s comfortable uncomfort.

So if you’re not making the money you want, if you don’t have the relationships you want, if you don’t have the health that you want, if you thrive in chaos or feel like chaos or uncertainty seem to follow you wherever you go, nothing YOU are doing needs to change. You have to change the way that you see things, the way you’re thinking and the subconscious programming in your brain.

It’s not enough to be aware because your brain will always guide down the path of familiarity. That’s why change feels so uncomfortable.

Adult Responsibility

You aren’t responsible for what happened to you but you are 100% responsible for how you choose to be as an adult.

Your past will affect you but it doesn’t have to determine your future.

If you’re holding onto past hurt your brain is trying to keep you safe from feeling that way again. BUT these are limiting beliefs that are keeping you from the things that you want.

If you grew up thinking money was hard to earn, that you needed to struggle, if you had a big heart break or a lot of heart break and now you don’t trust, if something traumatic happened or you grew up in chaos and now you don’t let people in or let people help you or if fear keeps you from pursuing things you really want, these are limiting beliefs that are holding you back.

Everything you want for you life is possible but you MUST kick this BS beliefs to the curb. They aren’t serving you in fact and you have to stop blaming what happened to you as the reason why you are the way you are or why you don’t have what you want.

You can create the life you want but you have to get out of your own way. You have to heal the parts of you that either keep hurting you or are keeping you from achieving what you want.

In my 1:1 program:

learn to control your thoughts

learn how to stop overthinking

You take ownership of your life and start actually making progress.

There’s no fluff and I hold you accountable for yourself.

You’ll make massive progress in your self awareness and how you’re showing up in your life.

heal your past

learn emotional mastery

gain confidence to put yourself out there

learn to trust yourself

And so much more.

If you don’t want to keep reliving the past and you want more for your life, this is your call to action. This is the sign you’re looking for.

Make Yourself a Priority

Do you make yourself a priority?

Do you feel drained? Like you give to everyone else and you’re running on empty?

You have to give from your overflow! If you want to see success in your career, in your relationships, in your business, in your life you have to make yourself a priority. When you are secure in yourself you can show up better in your career, in your business, in your relationships and in your life.

It all starts with you! Your relationship with yourself sets the tone for all other relationships. Whether it’s business relationships, friendships, family or romantic. If you want to see success in your life you HAVE to put yourself first.

Stop getting through life. Life is too short to put off being happy.

Take responsibility for your success and happiness.

My PRIORITY ME PLAN will get you started. This deal is only available for a few more days!!!

For $97 we will connect on a 1:1 video call and set you up with a plan to:

Rediscover yourself.

Have more fun.

Be happy.

Enjoy your life.

Surround yourself with amazing supportive people.

Develop better relationships.

Increase your earning potential.

Increase your career satisfaction

AND MORE.

Your Happiness Matters

When you avoid your vulnerable emotions you’re not getting rid of them. You’re prolonging them.

Imagine not over thinking, imagine being confident in your actions, imagine taking the risks in order to gain the rewards. Imagine making huge leaps in your life and career. Imagine not caring what others think, imagine not fearing failure, imagine not stressing!!!!

Imagine your potential if you stopped avoiding vulnerable emotions and faced your fears.

When you face your vulnerable emotions you gain trust in yourself and confidence.

It takes 90seconds to feel accept and release your emotions and then you gain confidence to handle what ever obstacles life throws at you.

My 90seconds method is quick and easy and once you implement it your confidence and self trust will sky rocket.

Life Lessons

Ok God/universe, no more lessons please I’m quite the scholar now.

But here’s the freaking kicker- The lessons never stop. Ugh!

No one has it easier than you so stop comparing. The difference is the way that they’re looking at it.

When you focus on how hard it is your brain will deliver more proof of that thought. That’s just how your brain works.

So if you want to stop struggling you HAVE to stop focusing on the struggle.

This can be really really hard if you’ve been caught up in the struggle for so long.

Take baby steps.

Do one thing today that you love. Read, walk, dance, sing, play… one thing. Give yourself 10-15 minutes to do something fun.

This takes patience and consistency. The more you do it the more your brain will re wire and release the struggle and find more things that make you feel good.

You HAVE to do the work if you want to see change.

Invest in your happiness. Invest in your success. My 1:1 coaching program holds you accountable to be consistent and it gives you the tools you need to succeed. This stuff works!!!! My program will give you the tools required to take on anything that life throws at you and create the happy, successful life of your freaking dreams!!! You need this. What are you waiting for?

If you haven’t been able to be happy, be confident, trust yourself, find love, create more money, have more fun and reach your goals and dreams on your own how much longer are you going to try to do it on your own?

Is my life perfect? No, but I’m happier more often than not. You can be too. You can heal the past and find success and happiness, increase your bank account and really love your life.

My priority me plan will get you started for just $97.

My 1:1 program will make massive shifts in your life.

Reach out for a consult call if you’re ready to heal the past and create the life on your vision board.

Make Yourself a Priority

You can’t say no to others and if you do you feel guilty.

You give and give and give but do you give to yourself?

You can’t be happy until you start making yourself a priority. You’re living for everyone else, trying to accommodate everyone else, trying to make everyone else happy... you’ve lost yourself and because of that you can’t see the success in your life and career that you want.

Maybe you don’t even know who you are anymore, or know what brings you joy.

If you slowed down and took a look at your life, how have you made yourself a priority? I’m not talking about bubble baths or going to the gym. I’m talking about saying no, I’m talking about doing things for yourself that bring you joy, I’m talking about having boundaries to hold up your morals, values and beliefs.

Change

Do the things you want most never seem to happen or work out for you?

You’re likely sabotaging yourself because of past trauma and now your brain is unconsciously trying to protect you from something.

You can heal your past without having to relive it.

When it comes to the brain, practice makes permanent. Meaning, the more you practice a behaviour it becomes habit.

Imagine getting all the things you want. Imagine, not replaying the same scenarios, and reliving the same situations. Imagine being a smarter, more confident trusting version of you. Most importantly, imagine being HAPPY because you’re no longer fighting to succeed and you’re getting out of your own way.

In my 1:1 program we work together to heal your past so that you can start showing up for yourself and in your career to see all the success you dream of.

In the program you will walk away:

More confident.

Leaving imposter syndrome behind.

Trusting yourself to make big decisions.

Healing your past

Learning how to use the law of attraction.

Mastering your emotions.

And more.

It’s mentally and emotionally draining trying to ‘fix’ other people, or trying to make others happy, or giving everything you have to other people, your career or your kids and leaving yourself on empty.

Happiness starts when you start to get selfish with your time, and mental space.

Imagine your life being so full, fulfilling, fun, filled with laughter and enjoyment, prosperous and abundant. Imagine being happy when you wake up excited to see what the day brings. Imagine smiling and feeling energized. Imagine being supported and connected. Imagine LOVING YOUR LIFE. This is what you get when you ‘get selfish’, when you have boundaries and start making your happiness a priority. It isn’t selfish. YOU GET ONE LIFE. Don’t waste it making other people happy. There are no redos.

The overflow from putting yourself first will be seen in your career and your relationships because you’ll be holding a higher standard for your life. You will see success in your finances, in your experiences and in the company you keep.

My priority me plan helps you get started and my 1:1 coaching program shifts the way you’re living and keeps you accountable. Reach out to me for a consult if you’re ready to make your happiness and success a priority.